If you need help with Manamon two, it'd probably be a good idea to either ask your question in this topic, or to make a new one. For Manamon one, I'd just make a new topic.

You really do not understand even the rudiments of human psychology, do you.

Would just like to mention that
1. This topic is in the wrong room and has been moved.

2. More importantly... The couple people who had the audacity to perform such a ghastly action are most likely able to handle a kind  pointer in another direction. You're making a tempest in a teapot man.

Oh god cry me a river you poor thing. Sure, attempting to relentlessly contact someone via many different mediums is over the top... But sounds to me like a one-time deal. If I send you an email asking a question, and you don't respond within a reasonable timeframe, I may move on in the case that you no longer use that account. For decent folks all it takes is a simple "I got it, but no." Done deal.

Hate to break it to ya, but this is the internet and that was a skype chat. The internet doesn't have a universally accepted quiet time. I'm sorry if I don't check your profile before shooting off a quick message in the attempt to preserve your beauty sleep. You want uninterrupted sleep, turn off your damned devices. Common sense anyone?

I've got an outlandish idea. Ready? Here it comes. If you don't want to be contacted through Skype, you should... ... ... Remove the ID from your profile.
Quit blaming everyone else.

This is what people mean when we say your posts come across as entitled, childish and for lack of a better term whiny. God am I glad the community and greater world doesn't have this mindset.

Also, I didn't get woke up, I found out it was sent at 5 in the morning when I opened up Skype and checked the time stamp on the message. This was after I told people, please do not message me privately. I already said this once, why the fuck should I have to say it a second time?

Frankly I don't get the point of such posts. That kind of tone isn't gonna ' give the guy a flash of insight to ponder the rudiments of human psychology. It's just going to trigger his defense impulses, which I dare say is another rudiment of psychology, and make him mad. That's just going to make his reputation worse than it is. I imagine some people couldn't care less about that, but it just feels wrong to me. We've seen time and time again how these posts are taken, and at best the remark is ignored, at worst it turns into a mess for all involved. But ya know, I'm weird, maybe I'm not getting something here.

@Dan_Gero I'm going to try and explain what Carter was saying in a way that doesn't fire you up. The rest of you can ridicule me for having the patience, but whatever.

First thing's first, I do get where you're coming from, but this just sounds like you're frustrated and doesn't seem like a real problem. In post 1, I counted no more than 2 times you said people were bothering you about something in the past year... Well this year is almost over, so in 10 and a half months, you've been bugged by two people, which is hardly worth noting. then later you come in and say it's happening all the damn time which creates contradiction. Yes, you don't have to detail every occasion this has happened to make your case known, but the way you have written it, it more or less sounds like you are just getting mad at normal activity.

If someone is bothering you by e-mailing, Skyping, then Facebooking you, let them know that you have received their messages and that you would greatly appreciate it if they left it go until you had a chance to respond. That only takes a few seconds to do, and preferably, you would acknowledge you got their message before it got to that point. Just a simple e-mail response saying "I'll check into it when I have more time" speaks volumes, and by the sound of it, you didn't do that. You might argue that you shouldn't have to, but... I think this is probably what Ironcross was getting at... if you say nothing, the psychological message is conflicted. The person doesn't know ' if you A, read their message, B, are using another account so didn't get their message, or C, care about their message. In any of those cases, they are, for better or for worse, likely going to pester you until they get some acknowledgement from you. Now, if you've told them you've seen their messages, said you'll get back to them, asked them to kindly leave you be for a bit, and they continue to harass you on a daily basis, and you've done everything you can to stop them from bothering you or to get away from them, and they just continue to harass you, then we have a problem. But until you can convince me that is indeed the truth, I am going to believe that  impatient people are just being impatient people and you're just going to have to quietly deal with it like everyone else does. If you really are annoyed with them, use that block button. It's there for that reason. But that  imho is more callous than just ignoring the messages, which seems to be what you're doing. I myself only use the block button when people seem unable to hear a simple request to leave me alone or stop doing something I find particularly annoying. For the record, I can't even remember the last time I had to block somebody for being annoying, since if it got bad enough I would just keep my distance from them and let them know I saw their message but can't get to it for a while. So long as I followed through and actually did respond at some point, they normally came to understand that I in fact did see their messages and would get to them, so they would eventually stop being so persistent after they built up some trust that I wasn't callously casting them aside. I think trust is key here, or at least part of the key.

Yes, I get it that people don't look before they message you, that you said "please use topics X and Y to ask these questions," and they pester you about it anyway. I know that can be annoying but it happens all the time, and like I say, quietly dealing with it is probably the best thing to do. The way I see it, there's standing up for yourself in a time of real harassment, and then there's venting out your frustration on people who probably don't deserve much of it. I'm not going to take sides here on how you're coming off since the community will likely take care of that nicely, and besides I don't know you very well. But I'll say this much: posting in fits of frustration and anger is something I'm noticing more in you, and it rarely does any good. Of course, when people say things you don't want to hear, that gets you fired up, and you post in angry retaliation, which just makes things worse. I caution you to be careful as I see this turning into another pointless flame war. But I do hope to be proven wrong.

It is currently 15:33 hours CDT. Today, alone, I have received a total of 30 emails in my personal account. Yesterday I received a total of 41 emails. I have a total of 29,744 (and counting) unread emails. In my inbox, mind.
So, I get quite a lot of emails every day over the span of 24 hours. When I was subscribed to far more active lists like the EDK2 development mailing list I got over 80 a day. Did I go and rage about it on here? Did I rage at the mailing list because I had requested non-batched emails and wanted them to pipe it down in there? Nope, I simply unsubscribed and resubscribed to the list I actually wanted to subscribe to (the EDK2-RFC mailing list).
Now, your not being subscribed to a mailing list. Your not subscribing to one to get all of these "bothersome" emails. But the same concept applies: your going to get far more emails in your inbox than you know what to do with. Selectively disregard those that you could care less about and read the ones you believe are important. If its happening on another platform, either (kindly!) inform the offenders that you'd like them to stop pestering you, or ignore them.

I have, because for the past 11 months I was with better people who taught me to be a better person. Now I’m around shitty people all the time, how do you expect me to act?

The other thing was that when I was in training, I had a councilor who I could vent to if something or someone pissed me off. That's why I hardly ever lost my shit with someone when they pissed me off, because I had a professional who I could vent to. Kind of hard to see a counselor who's now on the other side of the country. No, it's not right for me to take my anger out on the community, but I have no other options.

Hi.

Hmm, I partly get Dan-Geros problem.

Personally speaking if I don't get a reply via E-Mail, i wouldn't go so far and see if the guy has facebook or skype and contact him there, that's a big nono for me if he hasn't specifically said that you are allowed to contact him there.

People who do that mostly receive a block button to the face and I'm done with that.

I give out my E-Mail, you contact me by E-Mail and nothing else if I don't want it, simple as that.

Greetings Moritz.

So you're basically using us to fulfill your need to socialize, while at the same time, shoving your entitled whiny attitude in our face. How is that OK? Would this kind of thing be tolerated in real life? I don't think it would. Whoever you were talking to would probably just get up and leave; so this leaves me wondering, why do you think it's OK to do it online.

I think you need more than just a counselor, you need help in channeling your feelings into something productive, or at least into something less destructive. That's something you need to navigate though. We're not your counselors, and no where does it state in the forum's rules or FAQ that you can get professional help here. In truth, I wouldn't mind it if people wanted to PM me and talk privately about their issues. I've helped people in the past get through rough patches, including getting past the urge to commit suicide, so I'm open to talk to people, but that doesn't mean everyone is, and it doesn't mean you can or should push this on us so hard.

This is what I see. Someone constantly shoving their nose into someone else's business because they just want to be heard. That's what you are doing right now. Though I will admit that I probably see things related to you a bit skewed because of my bias against you due to this constant personality thing of yours that just puts me off.

If you want anonymity, go on Reddit, there's even a sub called /r/vent, you can join that, and start posting about blindie drama all day long.

It is true that negative people breed negative energy, but you have choices on how you express that. It can be very hard to live with people who are stuck in their ways and unable to do or say much of anything that doesn't involve blaming others for their own problems. I speak from personal experience on this. While I have my own issues related to these types of things, and I'd never deny that, you have to understand that fighting fire with fire isn't going to help, either. I get the impression that you're not doing this deliberately, but you are shifting blame where it's not warranted. You don't want people contacting you at all hours? There are lots of ways to solve that problem. I can't understand where all this frustration is coming from, in other words. I would be willing to bet that if you talked to one of the well-known devs in the audio gaming community, you'd understand that they receive far more relentless contact, both fan and hate mail, than you can even begin to imagine. Put yourself in their shoes. This is, in all honesty, a very poor example--I could have gone with celebrities, or any number of marginalized groups, on the other side of the spectrum--but it seemed the most relevant way to explain this given where we're posting right now. If any of the aforementioned groups or individuals can learn to filter out unwanted contact, surely you can, too, in whatever way suits you best.