Okay I'll be fairly brief because i have a rotten cold and am feeling quite crappy this morning.
@Jade, you have articulated your points well. I don't personally agree but I respect the argument you've made and consider the point before discussing future possible misogyny.
yes certainly, had Musical professor discussed his warning reasonably, we would not be having this conversation now since it is trivially true that had he not sent an offensive response to his initial warning he would not be in trouble over that offensive response, however this doesn't say much.
You can say that if the mugger had been able to make himself money some other way he wouldn't have done the mugging, however it is equally true that it is the mugging, and not the lack of money that got the mugger in trouble with the police, and it is also logically true that while all muggers want money, not everyone who wants money commits muggings.
In the same way, it might be true that it was musical professor's lack of facility for rational discussion that caused him to resort to insults, however not everyone who lacks articulation automatically resorts to insults either.
As to the talk of the democracy etc, that's a hole can of worms.
My personal philosophy on this is that no, the forum is not itself a democracy, however as staff we are manifestly here for the good of our members, not the other way around. As most libertarians will tell you, acting in the best interests of a group or individual automatically implies that you respect that group or individual's freedom of choice.
This means for all practical purposes, no we are not absolutely bound! to do something just because the majority say we should, but if we're going against people's preferences, we better have a bloody good reason for doing so.
With our dreaming and singing, Ceaseless and sorrowless we! The glory about us clinging Of the glorious futures we see,
Our souls with high music ringing; O men! It must ever be
That we dwell in our dreaming and singing, A little apart from ye. (Arthur O'Shaughnessy 1873.)