I've never once been on a dating site, I prefer to meet someone while I'm out and about, though of course there's nothing wrong with that, its just not my preferred method. I'd highly recommend though actually meeting the person ASAP as recommended by post 1. I actually don't date though, and have no interest in it whatsoever. I see patterns that crop up all over the place in other people's relationships. Drama is a big one, OK, fights are going to happen, its a part of being in a relationship, but to constantly be bringing up stuff that happened months and years ago? Plus, people get crazy and throw really hurtful stuff at each other when they're all out like that, and while I'm sure its sort of understood that they didn't mean it when everything is calmed down, its still not good, and it still happened. That type of stuff is what leads to relationships failing because you poison or sabotage it. SO if you get something cleared up, then let it be unless it actually comes up again, no need to be throwing it back in someone's face, that's immature and serves no purpose other than to sabotage the relationship. Mind games are another big one, if something's bothering you, tell your partner, don't let them wonder what's going on for two days until they drag it out of you , or you just snap. Why do you think they ask so many times, its because they care, and want to work it out. Sometimes I guess it could be for selfish reasons, like damn I'm not gettin' laid, I better see what's up and try to get right again. Also, the angry one, bottling up your frustrations and other emotions is going to lead to a big fight, because you're eventually going to have to let it out, and when you do, this is what I was talking about regarding drama, so quit it. If your partner made you mad, sad, made you feel unimportant, unloved, whatever the case may be, communication is important, so let them know it. If you do, you can possibly talk it out rather than scream it out. Me me me, always about me. I've seen this one a lot, and while its certainly true guys can be guilty of this, I see it a lot in girls. They are always angling for you to do something for them, buy them things, whatever it is. They never think about the relationship as a whole, and always think about themselves, and how they can get you to do more. They often use sex as a bribe to get something out of you. They drain your bank account, even if they don't have access to it, its the constant nattering to get you to buy them things, or do expensive things and suddenly, your nice emergency buffer is gone, and when you count in all the expense she is, you're living from paycheck to paycheck. Not only does this affect your wallet, it affects you psychologically, it drains your soul. Soon, you are this sunken-eyed zombie who lives life just going through the motions, wanting to get away, not being able to because she got you spending so much on her, etc. This is something I've seen from afar, but also have seen a good friend go through this.
So all that stuff and more are just such a turn off to me, and far outweigh the desire I have to be with someone, a real someone who wants a real relationship that may lead to marriage at some point. I will not say I wouldn't like that, but I just don't want the drama. I guess you could say that all the bullshit is a sort of prooving grounds to get you ready for the real thing, but there are people who only ever had one partner. One of my favorite YouTubers has only ever been with one woman, and they've been married for 18 years, and he's only ever slept with her, only ever been with her, etc. So it can happen. That's why I don't want to get involved in the drama, I don't have the energy for it, lol. And knowing me, I'd probably be like, well if you feel like that, get the fuck out then, because most of the time, I don't have a filter, but yeah if I'm pissed, you can forget about it.
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