I played this game for quite some time and enjoyed it immensely, although I never got in to the deeper game in terms of crafting and min-maxing my character.
I'm going to be extremely frank with you. If this game is getting on your nerves in the single player, then don't bother with the mud itself. It is a safe space for people to be able to rp adult situations in a collaborative environment that is judgment free. If you have trouble keeping your own preconceived notions to yourself, then don't even bother trying the multiplayer game.
Mechanically, you are able to play without the map. If you change the preference, you are able to get a list of places available on the map and go directly to the location.
Not every game is for every person. I have played on these types of games for a long time. If you believe that this isn't going to be for you due to its content, then pass this one by.