2018-07-14 12:25:28

Recently I created a similar topic.
I'm interested in dating with American people. For new friends and also I'm interested in girls for serious relationship.
Earlier, here I was advised by OkCupid. But I see that this is not effective.
I wrote to many people, but only a few answered me.
I would like to develop a dating site for the blind, but it will not be soon.
Here is my question:
How can I meet American people?
It can be like people who are visually impaired, and not.
What groups in Skype, Facebook, WhatsApp, sites can you advise?
About dating with not blind, I know only about OkCupid.
I will be happy with any information.
Thanks in advance!

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2018-07-14 16:58:21

This site has everything you need to know.

The bipeds think this place belongs to them, how cute.

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2018-07-15 21:44:11

I'm wating for other answers

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2018-07-15 23:14:56

@ironcross32 LOL. Sums it up perfectly.

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2018-07-15 23:20:23

Thought it might XDXDXD

The bipeds think this place belongs to them, how cute.

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2018-07-16 03:43:51 (edited by magurp244 2018-07-16 04:30:54)

Dating is, generally speaking, a bit of a crap shoot regardless of where you go. There are a number of other sites around but many of those sites can be filled with fake profiles, cat fishing, scams, etc. Then theres the lingering question of if those are predatory sites that directly benefit by keeping their users single and or in relationships they know won't last, and thus repeat customers, along with whoring your personal information to the highest bidder when signing up thats become all too common with "free" services. I'm not sure how helpful people can be with that, other than asking if anyone here is interested in dating.

Now, your not the first to come up with the idea of a blind dating service. Other than hitting those up or looking around other forums like at AFB or the RNIB for singles, you could try hanging around a few places that interest you and casually! letting people know your single and interested, I've heard of people who've gotten married after meeting on World of Warcraft for example, or meeting at conventions, participating in game jams, etc.

Some of these may also prove useful:

[blind dating: looking for love in the digital age]
[online dating service for the blind]
[Online dating for visually impaired people]
[what is it like to date while blind]

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2018-08-01 18:08:47

I think searching to date someone really doesn't deserve time. Better let the one find you instead of running around looking to date someone... At least this is what I think and I might be wrong. Different people have different opinions on this topic. And one more thing. You can have American friends without dating.

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2018-08-02 01:01:40 (edited by braille0109 2018-08-02 01:02:40)

and so the pop corn goes in the microwave. I've been after a topic like this one for a long while. now time to enjoy it. and no, this post has nothing productive, but I can't help it.

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2018-08-02 01:06:06

I mean yeah I don't see why it had to be drug up honestly, but the person is new, so must not know if the OP's trollish nature.

The bipeds think this place belongs to them, how cute.

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2018-08-02 01:17:14

Hey there.
My only advice I'll bother myself to type is ... if you want to find a girl, the absolute worst way to do so is asking on a forum such as this. Well it might not be the worst way but it definitely ranks amongst the top picks for worse.

A read worth reading regarding this very forum:
https://blog.blackscreengaming.com/ag-f … 0/15/2018/

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2018-08-02 01:56:08

Oh ironcross, that was good ROFL!
@Jonikster, don't do online dating, haven't you ever seen that reality show catfish? You think your talking to some beautiful girl, and it turns out to be some old dude or worse. No I'm not speaking from experience lol! But if you want to meet girls, go the old fashioned way, go out and meet girls at a coffee shop or whatever. I would love to do this myself, but I am too shy. I think it's being blind and not picking up on signals or having a hard time going up to somebody new. I have a lot of friends who are girls, but it's easier for me to talk to them through email or messages, than doing it face-to-face. Anyway, there are plenty of places to meet new people, I don't think they have a meet americans service, but American people are  around on this forum or other places. Why all of a sudden this fixation on meeting americans?  Don't they have girls wherever you are right now?

What has been created in the laws of nature holds true in the laws of magic as well. Where there is light, there is darkness,  and where there is life, there is also death.
Aerodyne: first of the wizard order

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2018-08-02 09:03:40

Omg Guitarman That was so funny and true in some cases. I actually have friends who have married through online, but not through dating sites. Dating sites can be dangerous, yeah. And no, I don't have experience :$ I just know what's around internet because I have given long lectures on privacy&safety to kids and teens I am one myself too.
But yeah, lol. I just like it. big_smile

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2018-08-02 11:49:05

post 9. if the troll nature was aimed at me in post 8, it honestly was not meant at anyone, and my apolojies if it came across this way. I just think sit back and watch this topic expand itself, is going to be fun. no harm intended at anyone.

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2018-08-02 13:38:31

This topic was so down in the list that it was obvious it was not going to get any more posts.

2018-08-02 14:09:43

I'm Canadian, not American; also male, not female.
I'm on OKCupid now, and haven't gotten a ton of luck yet. It's tough to know how current some of these profiles are. I'd be down for exploring some other dating sites that were free and accessible, because while I'm not saying online dating is the answer, it sure can't hurt. I'm ready for a relationship now, after a couple of years recovering from the absolute mess I made of the last one - long story, not getting into it here - and if it starts online, at least, that's fine with me. I've done the long-distance thing a couple of times now, and two of those resulted in engagements, neither of which worked. The distance wasn't the dealbreaker in either case...but yeah, I think I'd rather be at least semi-local, so here we are.

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2018-08-02 14:55:57

@13 no I said the op's trollish nature.

The bipeds think this place belongs to them, how cute.

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2018-08-02 16:12:42 (edited by x0 2018-08-02 16:14:45)

I have seen some rather funky ld relationship practices, a double ended remote thing with 24/7 control and password access is one of them that I'm just like uh, what? They do see each other in person though every now and then so I guess that's at least there. And yeah, I'm pretty sure there isn't a person who could tell you that they found love by running around desperately looking for a connection. That just attracts the shittiest types of people. Even if you consistently talk using voice, or are even local, if you go out and be like somebody date me! The results are not gonna be pretty. As somebody up there said drop hints if you like, or if you feel like you have feelings for someone you have met then have a private conversation with them about that, queue suspenseful building music and TV record scratch noise smile. But don't ask for them to come to you.
Also damn! I got rick rolled!

An anomaly in the matrix. An error in existence. A being who cannot get inside the goddamn box! A.K.A. Me.

2018-08-02 20:09:14

X0 Yeah, I liked that one lol. That's the reality. you don't just go to people and ask them out hahahahahaha.

After every hardship comes ease.

2018-08-02 20:35:15

The rickroll was meant for @op, sorry for the splash damage XDXDXD

The bipeds think this place belongs to them, how cute.

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2018-08-02 20:56:57

Anyone else think the OP really just wants us to choose a female for him?

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2018-08-02 21:37:30

Just make a female using some gene splicing and human cloning technology. and then add in some cybernetics so you can program it to date you and love you for the rest of its life. It'll have no choice but to follow its programming. You could even program its personality or should i say "her" personality, choosing among common personalities found in the real world. Or customise your own.

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2018-08-03 00:52:14

Yeah just like that movie RepliKate! He made a woman to be his wife but that didn't turn out so well. That's a good movie, it's too bad it's gotten so many bad reviews, I thought it was very funny. Or the big bang theory episode where howard made a six-breasted sex robot lol!
Jonikster, if your really that desperate to find a woman, why don't you look for a hooker near you, there all over the place! No woman on this forum or a dating site is just going to be your girlfriend just because you ask her to.
@Joshk, thanks for that post, very funny, I gave you a thumbs-up!

What has been created in the laws of nature holds true in the laws of magic as well. Where there is light, there is darkness,  and where there is life, there is also death.
Aerodyne: first of the wizard order

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2018-08-03 01:01:13

You can't forget about
Kari Girl

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2018-08-03 04:41:09

just stick to porn it's easier.

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2018-08-03 10:25:24

Well since this is a topic that's come up before  some people have likely heard my take on it, but for any newbies and for the sake of a fresh discussion I don't mind repeating myself, no I don't mind repeating myself, not at all, repeating myself is fine because I do not mind it. There are things I mind and repeating myself is not one of them, absolutely not, if I had to repeat myself some how it would not be something I would mind since I absolutely do not mind repeating myself big_smile.

Okay to get back on track my lady and I actually did! meet online in 2014 on a mailing list about books and music. However, neither of us was actually looking for anything romantic at all, we were just chatting about books etc. When it transpired she was a classical soprano and I was a classical tenor, I suggested the international music school I go to, since its one of the few places a blind performer can be treated equally at audition, and since she was living in Germany at the time, though she's American by birth, getting there wasn't too much of an issue. By the time we met, we had already exchanged a lot of emails and a couple  of phone calls and new we were friends.

Then after we met we both started to believe there could be something else going on. Things got a little more complicated after that since she got involved with someone else, but in the end things worked out and we've now been very happily married for two years.

The important thing from the perspective of this topic, is we were friends first. I was myself suffering really severe genophobia  (that is fear of sex), which made all of the usual dating business even crappier than it usually is for blind people. I however just treated my lady as I would any other friend, and things went from there.

the plane fact is, if you want a relationship that actually involves more than just what goes on in the bedroom, you will be spending a lot of time with your significant other, so if you can't get on as  things aren't going to work out well.

Unless your going to have a horribly unequal relationship, you will be doing a lot of things like washing the pots, doing housework, going shopping together etc, it also pays to be able to do things like read books, play games, go out, talk together and so on.

I can quite legitimately describe my lady as "my best friend" and she feels the same way, and part of that is simply that we started, and continue to be friends.

I'll also delicately point out that the more the two of you are on the same wavelength the better the physical side of a relationship gets, from cuddling onwards.

The same is true for friends of mine who have had successful relationships, they always started as friends with their respective partners first rather than going through the conventional dating game, asking out process.

indeed, the dating process seems inherently biased towards giving women a lot of power to accept or reject, and seems more than ever intended to go against any men who don't fall into a fairly narrow box of cultural expectations of male success, which unfortunately pretty much includes anyone with a disability.

So, my personal advice would be to forget any sort of conventional dating or attempts to find a romantic partner, and just look around for female friends, online or off it, ---- for example, one friend of mine once described tabletop roleplaying as "the thinking person's dating service!", and since I used to play a tabletop game every week with three married couples, two of whom had met whilst rping, that is not really surprising big_smile.

Actually most of my female friends I met as a student at university, just hanging around after lectures or doing social events and so on, this is also where several friends of mine met their respective partners too and it is possible if I hadn't been genophobic at the time I would've as well, though I will say post university finding anyone to be even normal friends with is pretty difficult, so anything else, goodness knows.

Lastly, I would personally advise people to stay faaaaaaar away from online dating sites. Not only potential predators, but also women looking to take financial advantage of men to essentially get meals out, or services that ask for exhaubitant fees and then offer no guarantees, plus of course, with no possibility to interact on a social level, your blindness will pretty much knock you straight out of the running with anyone bar some really decent women, since as I said, the conventional dating process is basically just meant to reinforce stereotypes, indeed in an era when all men are increasingly being labeled as dangerous predators as  that's likely getting even worse.

I suspect actually that "dating" is one of these hold overs from previous centuries and societies when men and women didn't interact much socially so needed some formulae and signals in order to do it, indeed I would guess that the more formalised and rigidly defined gender rolls in a society, the more formulaic the dating rituals and expectations are, expectations which give a lot of power to women, and very little to anyone who falls outside society's idea of masculine success, disabled people included, indeed I recall one study I read which noted in marriages with one disabled and one none disabled partner, in five out of six cases the disabled person was the woman.

So, my advice about dating is like my advice about online dating sites, stay far far away. On the other hand, female friends are definitely worth having and likely are your best way of finding a real lasting relationship.


With our dreaming and singing, Ceaseless and sorrowless we! The glory about us clinging Of the glorious futures we see,
Our souls with high music ringing; O men! It must ever be
That we dwell in our dreaming and singing, A little apart from ye. (Arthur O'Shaughnessy 1873.)

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