@Nocturnus, despite the fact that I hold administrator status on this forum, and obviously spend a significant amount of time on here, I still get that feeling of disconnection myself. This Especially happens with issues like this one Ghostrider describes sinse they tend to occur as he said among a small subgroup of people over skype and on other places and then bleed onto the forum.
This sense of being external to things does actually help as a moderator.
@Ghostrider, Steve is correct here. Trolls say anything to get on your whick, no different to some immature kid in the playground saying "your mum has a big bottom" or something similarly infantile, such things just show the intelligence (or rather distinct lack there of), of the people involved.
One question however. If this insulting business did not occur on the forum, why are you leaving the forum? I can assure you such insults if they occurred here would definitely not be aloud and you could report them, whether by pm or by post, so even if the person who said such is still here, she/he couldn't do such again. Also, there are manifestly a couple of hundred regular posters here, so this forum isn't just the domain of said moron.
As I said previously, leave if you wish and feel free to do so, just make sure your doing so for the right reasons and with the right information, sinse disturbing your life and getting you to stop frequenting places on the internet is exactly what those sorts of trolls want.
With our dreaming and singing, Ceaseless and sorrowless we! The glory about us clinging Of the glorious futures we see,
Our souls with high music ringing; O men! It must ever be
That we dwell in our dreaming and singing, A little apart from ye. (Arthur O'Shaughnessy 1873.)