2015-07-04 19:51:29

Hello everyone. So in the past few days, I've been leaning away from the blind community. I've been hanging out with my sighted girlfriend and her sisters and there boyfriends on twitter and there was only one drama that happened last night. However, in my experience, the blind community has started to resemble a cesspool of angst, drama, and immaturity, with a few small oases of calm, civilized individuals. Those are the people I will remain in contact with. I've lost so much faith in the blind community after reading a topic chock full of drama. It looked to me like 2 year olds fighting over a ball. However, in the sighted community, civility is so much easier to come by and I love it there. Most of them are accepting and I've made so many new friends. Please keep in mind I'm not targetting any individual person on this forum but some of you, be it over skype, twitter or online games, have lost my respect and faith. I think myself above none of you, however some people's actions have caused me great annoyance. I wish you all the best in whatever goals you have for the future.

Heroes need foes to test them. Not all teachers can afford to be kind, and some lessons must be harsh.

2015-07-04 20:57:20

Hi.
I couldn't agree more with this post. TO be honest it's not just on here. I've seen it so much on the Playroom, on the zone bbs. It's kind of sad to be honest.

I'm gone for real :)

2015-07-04 22:09:29

which community are you talking about? I mean here in the audio games? anywhere else?

2015-07-05 04:03:09

I'd ask the same as Afrim, sinse "the blind community" in general and the audio gaming community specifically are different.
Also to be honest if you think sighted  forums and communities are free from this kind of drama, it sounds like you haven't seen too many.

Actually, to be honest  from what you've said it sounds more as if your objection isn't to the blind community specifically, but is comparing the situation of "hanging out with my sighted girlfriend and her
sisters and there boyfriends on Twitter"

As to being part of a large and diverse forum.

Head over to gamefaqs and check some of the boards there if you don't believe me, or have a look at retroremakes.com, still worse forums devoted to say relationship or psychological issues.

Of course how much you participate in any community is very much your decision, however from what you describe I do wonder whether your correctly interpreting the facts. It is rather like an American friend I had who thought the Uk was much nicer than the Us because she was comparing living in a huge, bussling city of columbia with the small market town of Buxton far in the country, I doubt she'd have said the same if seeing the inner city center of a big  British city like London or Bermingham.

I'm not saying discussion of blindness in general and community institutions isn't a valid activity, I just question whether your interpretation of the facts here and your decision to "distance yourself" is up to you.
For a start, I can certainly! tell you that back when this forum started and had fewer than fifty members, Drama was literally unknown, indeed I don't think we had hour first real instance of such before 2009, and it certainly didn't become a concern until 2012, even now I will say myself and the other moderators do try to keep things to a minimum.

Of course if you want to leave, well it's up to you, I'd suggest however you think about things first and make sure you have your facts and reasons correct.

With our dreaming and singing, Ceaseless and sorrowless we! The glory about us clinging Of the glorious futures we see,
Our souls with high music ringing; O men! It must ever be
That we dwell in our dreaming and singing, A little apart from ye. (Arthur O'Shaughnessy 1873.)

2015-07-05 04:58:48 (edited by Figment 2015-07-05 05:08:39)

@afrim;

Brad mentioned this forum and The Zone, another online community of visually impaired people, and there are other similar communities.

@Dark;

If I recall correcly, in the disappointed with the blind community topic, you yourself said that you were distancing yourself from the blind and visually impaired communities and preferred to be with your sighted friends for the very same or similar reasons that Ghost Writer mentioned.


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I too have to agree with Ghost Writer and Brad. I lost my vision to an aggressive form of glaucoma two years ago. For most of the past two years, I was in a deep depression over my vision loss. I wasn't interested in doing anything or socializing. I just stayed shut in in my apartment and listened to audio books all day. But now in the past month, I've started coming out of the depression, I'm reaching out to people I've lost contact with over the past two years, reconnecting with family. and I'm getting interested in doing something useful with myself again, before I lost my vision, I was a software developer, so now I'm getting back into that, I've decided that I want to learn to develop audio games. I have a couple of ideas, and I also have ideas for a couple of programs that visually impaired people might find useful. In other words, things are looking up!

When I found this community, I thought I'd found a great place to hang out and socialize with people who might have similar points of view and outlooks because they were also visually impaired as I am. But over time, the way some people here behave, I find myself leaning away from this community and towards those communities I'd been a member of since before I lost my vision. As Ghost Writer said, I found they are generally happier, friendlier, and are very accepting that despite my blindness, I can be a useful member of the community. I find I enjoy their community more than I like this one.

An example: I;m taking a look at the NVDA screen reader as a possible alternative to JAWS. Since I would be actively comparing the two screen readers, I thought my comments would be welcome in the modern day comparison of NVDA and JAWS topic, what I got instead was to be ridiculed for my choice of file manager instead of Windows explorer and a remark that because the writer changes his own settings when he needs to he can't help me with mine, how does changing his own settings when he needs to prevent him from helping anyone else with theirs, unless he's just saying, I could help you, but I don't want to, what the heck? And besides, I never asked for any help from anyone, I was just relating some of the issues I was encountering. As a community, we should be helping each other or at the very least, respecting each other and our choices, not the ridicule and disdain I've seen people show to other people's choices just because they don't agree with theirs. Too often I've seen people ridiculed because they choose to use and like JAWS instead of NVDA, , or, in my case because I choose to use a file manager other than Windows explorer. Not only is that not right, it's unacceptable and shows a lack of tolerance and maturity.

When the topic of Freedom Scientific's ridiculous license agreement turned up, people here start calling Freedom Scientific childish name, and wish misfortune on its employees by wanting the company to go out of business so they lose their jobs. When I complained about what I thought was childish behavior, they told me to shut up and ignore them if I didn't like it. What's ironic is that while they were trying to suppress my right to speak my opinion they were speaking their own. Sorry, but it doesn't work that way unless you are a despotic ruler.

2015-07-05 05:25:51

I agree. People should treat others with respect here and show that this community is a place of helping, learning, and friendship rather than this place where people shoot down others' opinions. I'm sorry that new members are enduring this, and I want to help you in any way I can that there are those that will reach out in friendship and help a fellow blind person. I hope the rest of the community could do the same.
Thank you.

2015-07-05 06:12:56

@ghost rider

You are generalizing 'the blind community' by extrapolating from particular incidents.

This may be justified, but please be more specific and provide examples.

It's very easy to claim that 'the blind community' is childish without providing any exact sources.

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2015-07-05 07:59:38

@Gene, In the topic on the blind community I mentioned distancing myself from blind organizations, not this forum sinse I tend to find the two groups, "the blind" as community institutions go, and audio gamers tend to be different.
I will not discuss the freedom scientific topic sinse  I've just posted a moderation message there, however one thing I will say is to remember the proverb "evil shouts, good whispers", indeed one thing I will say about the forum is people are remarkably quick to remember the bad occurrences but don't tend to remember as much of the good stuff.

I have noticed myself that on any forum not just this one, when an arguement starts the band wagon gets rolling and everyone jumps on. That is what moderators are for and why our faq clearly states to respect others while sharing opinions.

while I'm very sorry you as a new member happened to run into one of these juggernaughts of flame, equally I'd suggest that perhaps you, and ghost rider and anyone else actually start reporting these situations, (obviously myself and the other mods can't read every topic there is), sinse the forum has gone on for a very long time quite amicably, and I'd much rather these things got resolved, indeed it's quite amazing how once you stop the band wagon everyone can get off and be quite peaceful.

Frequently, it's not actually what someone's opinion is, but how they express it that counts and unfortunately language is an escalating thing, ie, if one person starts calling something "crap" other people will too.

I do agree the "just ignore it" putoff is very irritating, sinse it really does go against the free speech and mutual respect ethos that we usually try to promote, indeed I've debated writing a list of forum do's and don'ts (mostly don'ts),  including this reason.

With our dreaming and singing, Ceaseless and sorrowless we! The glory about us clinging Of the glorious futures we see,
Our souls with high music ringing; O men! It must ever be
That we dwell in our dreaming and singing, A little apart from ye. (Arthur O'Shaughnessy 1873.)

2015-07-05 08:02:00

Ghost Rider, while I do get what you are saying I also think you are letting a few bad apples spoil your opinion of what is a fairly decent community in the main. The reason I say that is I have been on the web for close to twenty years, and the fact is I have been on both blind and sighted forums, chat rooms, and while there certainly are individuals in the blind community that act childish, immature, and behave inappropriately I have been around the web enough these last two decades to know there are some mainstream communities that are just as bad as not worse. It just all depends on what subject you are on, and how volatile it gets. I have seen some pretty spectacular flame wars on mainstream forums that make the childish stuff that goes on here seem pretty minor in comparison. So let's not point fingers and judge the entire blind community based on a handful of immature and childish individuals.

Sincerely,
Thomas Ward
USA Games Interactive
http://www.usagamesinteractive.com

2015-07-05 09:25:15

Most communities that wind up multigenerational tend to have these periods each time a new generation pops in where the newer generation has bouts of drama. Most of the drama around here lately seems to come from the newer developers yelling at each other.
If things work out the way they have elsewhere, most of them should either cool down or get themselves banned over the course of a few months.

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2015-07-05 12:00:08 (edited by afrim 2015-07-05 12:03:26)

@Some of you

Well, I agree that there are many problems going on in the blind community, especially in some forums, but that doesn't necessarily mean that all are the same. With this state, you are reminding me a generalised opinion of the mainstream sited people who think that all blind people are equally the same. They cannot study, they cannot learn, they are unable to help themselves in their daily life, etc etc etc. I registered in this forum about 9 or 10 months ago, and I've seen a very good community, far far better than the other ones. It's true that some people in the blind community act extremely childish. I've seen pretty much more childish behavior in the other forums, like Playroom, when a person would report another in the public forum, and the posts would flow 90 comments per day. That went so bad that the admin stated that he got mad by that post and decided to close the topic because everything felt like a game or fairytale for a three year old child.

These kinds of things are supposed to happen even in the sited forums, aren't they?
Fortunately blindness is a disability which is supposed to cause problems to the vision not to the brain. So there are very bad people, immature, mentally disorganized, but there are also very good and intelligent blind people as well who will pleasurely get along with you and you will enjoy every single discussion.

Thank you for taking the time to read this post and please do not get all blinds stuck in the same category.
Have a good time.

2015-07-05 14:46:53

Vary good post afrim. Agreed that not every single one is the same. There are somethings that may not be takened in to account at times and the following some of what may not be takened in to account. Some of these things may cause a problem and some may not. Not everyone is from the same country. Neither has each person has had the same family life. There is the age difference too for what it is worth. The thing that bugs me over all is that some has lived a pretty sheltered life. What I mean is that some has had everything done for them to the point that they might not know how things really are when it comes to dealing with other people over all. Usually, if one has been around other people and have grone to expect to do what they can do for themselves, then they will act diffently then if this was otherwise the case. Now this doesn’t really mean that we shouldn’t respect other people and act are age, but maybe this plays a part in the  problem? If so, the question is, how is it corrected and will said person under go the correction? I personally don’t get why some parents and guardians would sheltered their children to the point where they don’t know how to act on the form or out in public over all simply because of their disability.

All that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost. From the ashes a fire shall be woken, A light from the shadows shall spring; Renewed shall be blade that was broken, The crownless again shall be king.
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2015-07-05 14:53:46

hi.

I agree. It's strange but there's not much we can do about the protecting thing. It's not good in my opinion. Sure protect to a sertain extent but there needs to be a stopping line and that line should not be crossed.

I have seen a lot of drama on the playroom and don't go on there that much because of it.

I'm gone for real :)

2015-07-05 15:23:35

Dark wrote:

Also to be honest if you think sighted  forums and communities are free from this kind of drama, it sounds like you haven't seen too many.

This sounds like the "Line of the year" to me, I don't think dark could say it better - If you think that drama only exist for the "Blind community", I would disagree with you. Just read some random forum posts from <Insert site of interest> and observe while adults fight over something very childish in over 500 posts.

In any case, Whatever choice and course you have set for yourself, I wish you the best, and socializations free of any sort of drama.

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2015-07-05 16:52:24

Hello all,
Here is my point of view.

  I love audio games. That is, I love to develop, play, and talk about them, which is the reason I have not left the forum. I've seen the drama, ---- I used to be part of it myself, but that stopped a couple of months ago. But back to the subject at hand, I will not leave this forum simply for the fact that there are! supportive people, civilized people, people who can help with any technical issues I have, people who make wonderful games and play and support any that I make myself, people that have some sense in their brains, --- and those are the people, in my opinion, that keep this community running. The moderators, while they do a great job in most cases of stomping out the drama that comes about, are not what drives this forum; it's the people. and I don't mean the immature drama magnets, I mean the tens, (maybe even hundreds because I don't bother to count), of people who are there to help, discuss, and play games with. I have decided to be one of those people. So when there are topics with drama in them now a days, I mostly either have a brief look and laugh before hitting the close button, or skip them entirely. Because I could leave this community all I want, just to join a sighted community. But then what? I'd find 20 or so drama topics within 6 months as I have here and leave that one too. So what would be the point?

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2015-07-05 19:08:54

The h key is a wonderful thing. With Jaws and NVDA, it lets you skip to the next heading without reading any of the intervening text. And it just so happens that, on the Audiogames.net forums, headings are used for the names of posters and topics. And, since drama tends to cluster among specific posters and topics, all it takes is pressing h until you find something less stressful to read.

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2015-07-06 04:32:28

Hi all,
Well, I can see both sides of this.
The thing is, Ghost Rider has a point. Not because blindness-specific forums have less drama, but because when drama happens here, it seems to pile on all at once. We're not talking about a Tumblr post where literally 20,000 people could comment. Here, the same people tend to get into the same old petty fights.
Furthermore, I can think of a couple of newer audio games that are so poorly run that it makes me sick to think about. I'm not going to mention names, but, because I am closer to one of these situations than I would like to be, I hear about things all the time that truly make my blood boil. Security risks, hacking, general immaturity, and so forth, are things that I hear about on a daily basis, because I happen to be close to someone who plays a big part in running one of these games. And I find myself getting more and more frustrated, because everybody is just going on their merry way, not caring at all about what's really going on, because these people are young and lack life experience.
So to be honest, I can see why Ghost Rider is frustrated. But Dark is also correct that the internet is really a black hole of drama if that's what you seek.

The glass is neither half empty nor half full. It's just holding half the amount it can potentially hold.

2015-07-06 05:48:14

@Turtle;

The problem with some players hacking, cheating, and otherwise trashing online games, I suspect is mostly kids that don't know any better or simply don't care how their actions might effect others. It is these troublemakers and the problems they cause that is my primary reason for not playing online games. The few times I did try online gaming, I found I didn't enjoy it as much as I enjoyed playing offline, so now I don't even consider it an option.

2015-07-06 06:20:12

It depends upon the online game, it's security and how it's run.

There are many extremely good browser games and muds that entirely missout on the hacking and associated drama. Likewise, while there were trouble makers on Swamp  through a lot of work on Aprone's part I believe that situation has become managable, and really the world's first audio multiplayer fps is definitely something.

The issue with online games seems to be entirely that of younger, newer developers who begin a project without certain levels of experience or stability. IN some cases this leads to games that by rights should have been practice example games or should have considderably more work and thought put into them going live and all the accompanying drama. In other cases it leads to games being launched without adequate security or experienced moderation, or still worse, newer developers getting into arguements with their own friends or colleagues, arguements that often result in a lot of petty and malicious behaviour, often doubly worse because such people have privilidged access to the code.

Unfortunately it is a trend, that everyone suddenly wants to create an online game, but perhaps should think more carefully before doing so, and yes, it's resulted in a lot of agro although the agro is more based on that situation and it's not too different to other major arguements that have arisen in the past resulting from a certain trend in thinking which perhaps isn't thought through sufficiently.

It'll die out in the end though, these things always do, ----  anyone who was here a few  years ago remember the row over accents? or the "everyone complain about the database" episode?

as with most things, this too shal pass, however if everyone jumps ship at the first sign of bad weather, ---- well it'll be a pretty empty ship, and bad weather does tend to be fairly universal in any community, at some point in time.

With our dreaming and singing, Ceaseless and sorrowless we! The glory about us clinging Of the glorious futures we see,
Our souls with high music ringing; O men! It must ever be
That we dwell in our dreaming and singing, A little apart from ye. (Arthur O'Shaughnessy 1873.)

2015-07-06 07:59:33

I am by no means stating that the sighted comunity is free of drama. However, the fact that the drama is such commonplace is what puts me off about the blind community. For example, last week I found 2 15 year olds fighting and when I asked what the argument was about they resorted to the "he started it" card. In yet other places, people will be extremely jealous about everything. Again, I know its not just the blind community. However, how the members of said community react upon there jealousy is unbelievably childish. Now I know it may only be with younger developers, but they will most likely be the people who will make games for the next generation of audio gamers. It's honestly quite scary to think that some of these developers are older than me yet they show such immaturity. That is one of the basses on which my decision is set, and I do not think I will change my mind. I'm also quite tired of being ridiculed, or feeling that way, when I don't know something about technology. I know how petty I may sound but it has gone on for so long I've grown tired of it.

Heroes need foes to test them. Not all teachers can afford to be kind, and some lessons must be harsh.

2015-07-06 08:17:21

My response to being ridiculed when I don't know something is to ask my heckler something I know he doesn't that I do, that usually puts them in their place. Your question doesn't have to be about the same or similar thing you didn't have an answer to, the point is to subtly tell the detractor that they don't know everything either, but its more effective if it is.

2015-07-06 08:38:53 (edited by afrim 2015-07-06 08:44:42)

@CW

I agree with you, the decisions, the behavior and many many other things are indicated by the country where people live, and the culture they own. The more years I pass, the more disability I'm seeing on the young blind children. The point is, they are used to get things plain in front of them right "on the table". What I'm intending to say by "On the table", is that they are used, not necessarily by themselves, to have everything ready. This idea is even grown harder by their parents by isolating their children. Imagine getting everything ready for you. You want your clothes, they are served by your parents. You want a glass of cold water, that is served by your parents. You want to plug in your computer, that is again done by your parents.
What the heck is this blind folk supposed to do?
The situation gets even worse when  these blind kids do not try to change anything because they feel good with it. When I went to the public school, I remember some of students and teachers who intended to help me with everything and let me do nothing. But I was feeling very disabled in this situation and I told them I'm not a king or prince to have everything delivered by somebody else. Yes they wanted to even open my laptop's lit because they thought I couldn't do it myself. Primarily, This is not a bad thing because they just want to help you and I never took it for granted, but in this way you are making yourself much more disabled.

Then we come to the point you mentioned.
"Problems on acting with the people in daily life"
Basically It'll happen if parents of these blind kids  will not change their attitudes towards their children and the consequences will bring about later on their ongoing life. I think the situation has changed to what it has been ten years ago regarding disability of blind children. We were different. Not that I'm old though, I'm just 19. smile

2015-07-06 09:26:33

@Ghost rider, I can't speak for Klango or the playroom or Zone bbs or other places sinse I have my hands full with this forum and games and the audeasy list and don't particularly feel the need for more, big_smile.
Here at least however  remember we do have rules about insults, and I do always try myself to assist when someone asks a question if I can.

I can tell you that there have actually always been younger developers who work on practice games and often cause a lot of shenanigans, naming no names, but I certainly have seen this before. The online games craze  has resulted in matters being magnified as I said, but fundamentally the situation isn't new. Generally speaking one of two things will happen, either the younger devs will grow up and work harder, or (and I am sad to say this happens more frequently with those who engage in lots of drama), will simply drop off the map taking their usually  unpolished games with them.

Also don't forget not all new developers are teenagers either.

With our dreaming and singing, Ceaseless and sorrowless we! The glory about us clinging Of the glorious futures we see,
Our souls with high music ringing; O men! It must ever be
That we dwell in our dreaming and singing, A little apart from ye. (Arthur O'Shaughnessy 1873.)

2015-07-06 10:11:16

People like the audazle project and the ones that make Flarestar, I currently forget there names, are the devs I respect because they take feedback in stride. So positive feedback makes them happier and they strive to make more games, and negative comments let them know where to improve and they don't start fights like some devs do. Seeing a flame war burst out over simple things like who leads or holds a project, who hacked what etc etc. is vastly irritating.

Heroes need foes to test them. Not all teachers can afford to be kind, and some lessons must be harsh.

2015-07-06 10:20:32 (edited by Figment 2015-07-06 10:30:53)

I used to think that people who are born blind are better off than those that lose their vision later in life, as I have. My thinking was that those who are born blind, having never had vision, don't know what they're missing, but those that lose their vision later in life suffer a major and traumatic loss.

But now I wonder if it really isn't the other way around, that despite the trauma of losing your vision, suffering that trauma is better than being so sheltered by well meaning parents that you can barely function on your own.
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I can't say the same thing about the developers of Flairstar, a.k.a. Ticonblu. After buy The Inquisitor Part One, and finding it buggy to the point that the game could not be completed, and finding that the developer didn't seem to care that he sold me a known defective product. After that experience, I will never buy anything from Ticonblu again. And I'm not alone in being screwed by Ticonblu.

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So, of course he isn't going to start any dramas here, because he'll very likely be roasted alive by the people he's sold junk to.