Responses to Orko, Sam, and Sir Badger.
@Orko
I didn't find this disturbing in the slightest, and I don't think most of us did. Maybe you should reconsider your response to the situation.
But I wouldn't throw stones in a glass house, if you know you can't take it, than you just shouldn't have commented in the first place. People like you get eaten alive in places like BSG, and what Aprone said was child's play compared to what you could have gotten. I'm truly sorry for the sexual abuse you endured, and I find comments like Xoren's to be pretty distasteful (remember people, comedy is tragedy plus time and childhood sexual abuse is still a huge issue even in the developed world) but if you really think about it logically, Aprone had no idea that you went through that, and comments like the lockerroom one are pretty low on the scale of offensive things for most people who haven't had a specific incident, and could just as easily be encountered offline in a totally benign setting.
@sir badger
Yeah I don't like it either, but unless you've also got solutions, than telling people off for telling people off is just adding to what you don't want to see, even if you aren't being a spaz about it like Ethin is for instance.
Basically your acting like the proverbial older lady going (tut tut, such language!) and it solves nothing.
I do sympathize though, some people do certainly seem to be in this just for the chaos, landing low blows left and right and bringing up old baggage while they think they can get away with it, and not just Ethin either.
Honestly I'd just not comment and wait for things to blow over, report a post if you think it's bad enough, ETC, that's mostly what I'm doing.
@Sam
The discussion was about the ag.net forum mods, and an ag.net forum mod answered it, it doesn't matter if that happened in a PM, on another site, or over two tin cans and a string, it still applies, and Orko isn't necessarily wrong for bringing it up here, on the ag.net forum.
Aprone was unprofessional sure, but it was outside his actual direct mod duties, and Orko isn't exactly a shining beacon of good behavior either, no matter how justified he thinks he is, plus the comment was really not that bad by most people's measure, so that's why it shouldn't have been posted.
Many public facing jobs will in fact fire you for making them look bad outside of work as well, so this doesn't apply very well.
Aprone barely ever steps in, so it's hard to say if he has a good track record, he does act pretty immature about it, but if Orko is the only one complaining, and he started it, than I wouldn't put much stake behind it, but since it does involve ag.net and moderation, it kinda crosses over that barrier IMO.
I see this as being different from say, if Aprone called me a raging assclown on Skype in some random conversation we were having about the price of aluminum in India, since that doesn't concern ag.net or his moderation at all.