@Jayde, I admit part of my hatred for the usual gender dynamic in the dating system is likely personal, since if your a man who  is genophobic and physically cannot! do the usual asking out thing then your in severe trouble, and its hard not to resent the fact that women who have a similar problem are actually favoured by the system putting them in a position of power, indeed the above Washington post article about the blind woman dating would likely read differently since I imagine if a blind man told a sighted woman if she was interested to "make her interest known" he'd likely be labeled as a creep or a curb crawler or worse.

of course, the traditional system does have its down side for women, and it is worth noting that wile its generally easier for women to find! relationships under the traditional rules, its also far harder for women to end bad ones too, though this likely helps less in the "looking for someone" end of things unless you happen to be like me and lucky enough to meet someone who's been through enough bad relationships to know what they do and do not want and rely on being friends and communicating rather than passing along some mysterious set of inter signal byplay.

I did try Ok cupid myself, but as is usual nobody would message me, and the few people I tried to message gave me absolute silence, the one time my parents tried a subscription to Eharmony for me it was no better. Since then I've found too many horror stories of men being used as an idle online chat amusement for women who have no intention of actually meeting or looking for a committed relationship, or worse, women who just want to get free meals to put much store by the process.

Btw, to ask a practical question, is Ok cupid then cooperating with with screen readers these days? It was alright when I tried it back in 2008-9 or so, but I seem to remember the accessibility had gone down hill since then, though it might have come back or be better on Chrome than Ie.

My lady and I were rather interested in having a go at some of the character analyses and quizzes on the site (we tried the Nurd, geek or dork test but couldn't get the site to show us a result), assuming of course you can still do the quizzes without having the dating side of thinggs.

One of the problems i run into is not being able to drive and not in a place with decent bus service women are usually turned off by the fact i can't drive. Their Loss I say.

@Jayde agreed on feminism, though its remarkable how many women will still adhere to these sorts of favoured expectations when its in their favour to do so, EG its far easier to wait to be asked than to ask.
I suspect the men who post crude stuff are more your standard internet creeps than anyone actually looking for a relationship seriously, and hay just because I tend to think the dating process favours women doesn't mean that I believe all men to be saints or something .

I'd be interested to know if anything actually does turn up given my own %100 lack of success with both Ok cupid and Eharmony, and the fact that I've heard so many bad stories of men being taken for a ride one way or another.

Btw, amusingly enough, my lady and I didn't actually go out for a meal until we were very much together (she was staying with me at the time), we'd taken meals together at music school, but the first time we actually went to a restaurant was actually after we were very much a couple.
She actually offered to pay for that meal on the basis that "she!" was staying with "me!" and didn't want to feel entirely dependent.
I agreed. The second time around I paid in interests of fairness, actually we did make several jokes about cultural expectations at that point, though when your actually with someone the dynamic changes and you end up doing things primarily for the other person's good rather than yours.

@Michael, The car thing is again just another part of how blind people fall outside the standard cultural idea of what a masculine" man is supposed to be. Again, people are stupid! the problem unfortunately is that people are also so stupid that the stupidist people get rewarded for their stupidity .

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@SirBadger, yes this is exactly the same guy. First it was, what is the best programming language to use?, then how do you do this or that in different programming languages?, then he's a master programmer and wants to live in London and make a lot of money. Which I'm guessing wouldn't work out, unless he got a computer science degree in the several months he was on here. Now with all the flip-flopping, I guess it's moving to America and dating American girls lol!

@33: you don't need a CS degree to program...