Right on, Jade. it really comes down to adjusting your style as you go along. Skeletal knights and liches might not work in a particular scenario, which is where ghouls and vamps come in. You may not be able to use a metal construct in a particular situation to tank for you, but a mummy might do it well because of all that HP and infused saves and whatnot. Claymen seem rather weak and puny, but you can recast them quite quickly undermost circumstances. Be aware of what you're fighting and what you need to do to defeat it. Vesden the conquerer and that pet dragon of his might seem like a challenge if you are a necro mage or necro cleric with a bunch of skeletal minions and pure necrocast equipment, but add on breathsaves and cast rotting sphere instead of bloodmist and that challenge becomes almost nonexistent.
As I said before my reason for having necro mage cleric druid thief warrior is the mana stores. I maxed out int and wis early on, then began my focus on con and str, so that now at level 33 I have a beast of a necro for the most part. In my primary set I have 734 hp, which has stood me well against many things thus far, but my real focus is the mana and mana regeneration. Given I haven't yet aged myself I'm quite satisfied with the 83mana per tick. As for the situations that I don't do quite well in? I have other eqsets to deal with them; it's also possible to use demonic favor to soften the blows wher necessary. The greatest downside to my primary set? Weak AC.